1. Talk with your Fiance
About what you want YOUR wedding day to look like. For me, this was the easiest part! We would cuddle and dream aloud about our wedding together…. even before we were actually engaged!
Here are some specifics to talk about: Do you want it to be a big, loud, crazy, celebration? Do you prefer a quiet and intimate event? Maybe you’re somewhere in the middle. Is it important to you to be married in a church? Is it important that you’re in the mountains? What would YOUR perfect day sound, smell, and look like? How do you want to feel during your wedding day?
2. Talk with those who want to be involved
Maybe it’s your parents, an aunt, a grandparent, or a best friend. Talk with them and see how much help(financial, emotional, physical) they are willing to provide. Next, be sure to ask if there are any strings or expectations attached to that help.
This can be the most difficult part of planning your wedding day…. or it could be a piece of cake! Every family is different but navigating those waters can be tricky. For us, my families religious expectations were a deal breaker, and we ended up leaving their help behind. They still wanted to be involved in our day, and we obliged. Looking back, this decision ended up causing much more painful drama than either of us wanted as we started our lives together, so I wish I had done things differently.
If you’re dealing with a difficult family situation, I hear you. I don’t have the answers, but I do understand how tricky, painful, and difficult these conversations can be. Ideally the people you love most should be there with you to button up your dress, walk you up the aisle, toast to your love, and celebrate your day with kindness and joy, but unfortunately that’s not always on the table. As you talk, remember that they love you and you love them, compromise can go a long way, but dont be afraid to stand up for the day you and your fiance envisioned in step 1, even if it means kindly leaving their help behind.
3. Budget & Finding Help
Now with all of this in mind, you’re ready to set a budget for your day! You may also consider how involved you want to be in the planning process, if planning all the small details isn’t for you, you may consider hiring a planner for your wedding day. Here are 3 helpful articles for setting budgets that can help you decide:
4. Location and Date
Choose a season and start speaking with venue’s that you like. See if they have a date free that works for you and make an appointment to go take a look! Here’s a link to some of my favorite mountain venues!
5. Choose a photographer
Photographers get booked up quick, especially for Saturday’s during wedding season. SO, the next step? Choose who’s going to document your day!
Here’s an article I wrote on how to choose the RIGHT photographer (or if you even need one at all).
Some of these things might seem obvious… but sometimes if you’ve never done it before, it helps to see things laid out in a nice orderly fashion! If you’re newly engaged and feeling nervous about the next steps, I hope this guide helps! Let me know if you think I missed anything, or if you’d like me to delve deeper into one of these topics.
Love & Appreciation,